(((Littlewing))) Welcome to the forum.
At first it all seems so overwhelming, but you will learn to honour this journey in time. I also started perimenopause with anxiety. It was cripling panic attacks that drew me to Susan's book and ultimately to this site. I truly hope you don't have anxiety like that but even if you do, I am here to tell you that it will end.
Embracing your fear or anxiety means to fully accept it in a loving way. Most people will recoil from the thought of accepting a scary emotion like anxiety but trying to fight it or to push it away will only make it stronger. Try to remember that our emotions are only thoughts and that they do not control us. A first good step in moments of anxiety is to focus on the breath. Take a moment to breathe in deeply and to slowly breathe out. Feel the motion of your belly swelling with each breath in and relaxing with each breath out. You can mentally breathe in calm, support and love and breathe out fear, worry and anxiety... really feel the anxiety flowing out of your self with each exhale.
Other things that helped me with anxiety: motherwort tincture, yoga, walking barefoot on the earth, taking time alone in nature every day, nettle infusions, lavendar sleep pillows, lots of hugs and support from loving friends.
When you begin to feel a little calmer, you can look at what anxiety is trying to tell you. Is she saying that change is on the way? Well remember that one door must close before another opens. Change is necessary in life for us to grow.
You ARE strong. You carried two children and birthed them into this world. Menopuase is a journey where you will birth a new YOU. It can be a wild ride sometimes, but nothing that you can't handle. And you have a whole circle of loving women making that journey with you here on this forum.
I know because I am closing my croning year now. I surrvived the journey and grew in so many wonderful ways. You will too.
My life mate??? How did he cope? W-e-l-l- he IS a very patient man