I just found this thread, and I'm bumping it up. Wonderful wisdom from all. I found my first grey hairs when I was 38. I've always wanted black hair, and my natural color is dark brown with red highlights. Really pretty, actually, but I was never satisfied with it. As a child, I pictured myself as an Indian (Native American). Must have been one in a past life, or maybe I was just enamored of the stories told to kids.
Anyway, I bought and was using Aveda's Black Malva shampoo, because I thought it would darken my hair. And it did, but unbeknownst to me, it made the silver threads in my hair POP! When someone told me the grey in my hair was beautiful, that's when I went right down and got my hair colored. Heaven forbid that I have grey hair at 38! I wasn't even grown up yet!
Sooo, I've colored my hair all these years. When I was 42, I took a chance and colored it black. I loved it. I used Feria's Starry Night, and it had so many shadings to it, it looked natural. For 3 years, I had black hair and loved it. Then I went to Scotland for six months. After 2 months of brown and grey (ok, silver) growing in...talk about a skunk...I tried to bleach the black out myself and dye it red.
I ended up at the salon in this tiny fishing village, and I had her cut my long hair all off. It was about 1-3/4" long, orangey with a dark red tip. I waxed it and spiked it at first. Over the rest of the stay in Scotland, I tried dying it myself. The dye over there is NOT the same as here, even the same brand, and it kept fading out.
After I came back, I decided I wanted to know what color my hair really was, and how much grey/silver I had, so I shaved it off to about 3/4" long. My kids teased me that I looked like Ewan MacGregor in Star Wars: The Phantom Menace. Once it grew back, I didn't like the silver 'highlights' so I colored it again. Red this time. I've been red since 2003, from strawberry blonde with blond highlights, to a golden red with highlights, to this time a dark violet-red, no highlights. Better, and closer to my own color.
Now I want to let it grow out again. My girlfriend is allergic to the dyes now, so hers is growing out, and looks good. I've kept the color from fading by using the plastic-y color protection shampoo and conditioner. I want to go all natural now. If I use something other than this special shampoo, my red will fall out and I'll be blondish again, from when I stripped it before. Then my roots will be dark and silver as they grow in, and I'll look like a skunk. But what I'd really like to do is use the natural shampoos, or go no-poo. Use my rosemary vinegar and red wine that I used to.
Any suggestions? Shall I keep coloring the roots with something temporary, or just be a skunk? LOL
Sorry this post is so long, I didn't realize all I had done to my hair! Guess I shouldn't be too surprised, I'm 50 now...it's been 12 years, after all.
Erica, with Peter Pan Syndrome (I'll never grow up!)
Everything always works out in the end. If it hasn't worked out, it's not the end.