I'm going through similar stuff right now, too, mama! Although, with my first- I don't know what I would do if I had another little one, but it still is putting a strain on my man, and I'm seven months in
It would also be good for me to know if motherwort is contraindicated for nursing. What I DO know is that lemon balm has been making me feel really good lately. I made a big ol' jar of lemon balm honey and put it in everything I drink. I definitely need to be doing more of the oatstraw infusion- I've been pretty good about getting nettle in, though, which has helped a lot with the adrenal fatigue.
Love you, mama! Hang in there!