Trying to hard?

[QueenofGreen]

I have been trying to conceive for 2 years now with no success... I'm trying really hard to not get down in the dumps about it, but I am, so bad. Thoughts keep running through my head that I can't seem to control that make me just want to pull my hair out and I'm finding it so hard just to be happy. Am I trying to hard? What can I do to help relieve this stress so maybe I can get pregnant?

[sapphire kate]

How old are you?

[QueenofGreen]

25

[sapphire kate]

2 years is a long time to be frustrated. I am curious though, why the need to have it happen now?

[RoseRed]

Have you had any medical testing done to see if you can find what's causing this?

Holding onto so much anxiety isn't healthy. It's difficult but can you find some quiet me time or meditate or even a quiet walk in the woods- just a break from the stress and a chance to breathe.

[Lady Alinor]

Sometimes the male is the issue, his little wigglers just aren't strong enough for the journey and final penetration.
I don't know why the finger is near always pointed at the woman when conception is slow.

Do you have Susun's book "Herbal for the Childbearing Year"?
She lists several herbs that both partners could use to improve conception...Red Clover flowers, Red Raspberry leaves, Nettle.

[RoseRed]

You're so right. I didn't mean to imply that the 'problem' lies solely with the poster. I was using 'you' in the plural as in you guys. I just wanted to clarify that.

[QueenofGreen]

2 years is a long time to be frustrated. I am curious though, why the need to have it happen now?

I guess just that I want a child now, my husband and I are both ready together and it's something I've always desired...

[QueenofGreen]

I don't go to the dr. at all so no, I haven't been checked and neither has my hubby. He has other children from before our marraige though and that is the reason I don't believe that it's him. I'm trying to do some of the suggestions like take a walk in the woods when I feel this way... I know that stress can sometimes cause you not to be able to get pregnant and i don't want anything holding me back. I drink Red Rasp. Leaf and nettle every day, but I should probably start on some red clover, thank you for your replies!

[teatime]

i am just asking questions. in no way am i accusing, blaming, or anything like that.

where does your partner work? does he work with chemicals, in a kitchen, a forge? anything like that where his testes could be getting hot? does he ride a motorcycle or bicycle a lot? what is his age?

where do you two live? do you live in an area where there is enviromental problems that could be effecting both of your fertility? have you ever been pregnant before?

[bluebirdmama]

I wanted to offer a big hug. I really know what yo are going through as it took that long to get pregnant with my daughter. She is happy and healthy but just didn't want to come for along time. It was very hard and sad at times and I spent way too much money on pregnancy tests. Good thing the dollar store tests are cheap and accurate. I did change my diet eventually and it didn't take that long to get pregnant with my son.

[Lady Alinor]

Rosered...I wasn't refering to what you wrote...really

So often women blame themselves and family blames the woman.
Just because the man has children from before doesn't mean anything in the now. It won't 'kill' him to also drink the infusions, he could be doing more than just donating his wigglers.

[teatime]

yeahthat

[RoseRed]

but when I went back and re-read it I couldn't tell the difference and I wrote it!

I do have a question tho. You said that you don't go to the doctor at all. Do you plan on going thru an entire pregnancy without going to the doctor as well?

[QueenofGreen]

i am just asking questions. in no way am i accusing, blaming, or anything like that.

where does your partner work? does he work with chemicals, in a kitchen, a forge? anything like that where his testes could be getting hot? does he ride a motorcycle or bicycle a lot? what is his age?

where do you two live? do you live in an area where there is enviromental problems that could be effecting both of your fertility? have you ever been pregnant before?

My husband works in landscaping, we are both pretty down to earth... I don't think that it makes his testes get hot but he does do very hard physical labor. He is older than me by 16 years, 41. I know that enviromental problems are abounding everywhere right now and I am trying to rid my body of those toxins that are coming from that. i do live in western montana where you wouldn't think it's that bad, but I know that the farmers around here do spray a lot of bad chemicals. I have been pregnant before, when I was 19 and miscarried 12 weeks in.